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Parents role in preventing bullying

Posted on September 5, 2018 by Enrique Mata

As the 2018-2019 school year begins, kids are starting off fresh with new opportunities to develop friendships and social networks. This is a special time when life-long connections can form. It can also be an emotionally challenging time. In addition to getting to know teachers and getting familiar with school assignments, parents must be vigilant to prevent childhood bullying.

According to the StopBullying.gov website, bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. Bullying can be physical, verbal, or social. It can happen at school, on the playground, on the school bus, in the neighborhood, over the Internet, or through mobile devices like cell phones. Research has shown that child life experiences, media violence, fear of becoming a victim and parenting styles are reasons why children might become bullies.

Some of the most important things parents can do to help prevent bullying include:

  • Getting to know the school staff by attending any available orientations and taking an opportunity to tour the school.
  • Encouraging your child to make friends with other children
  • Teaching your child how to say in a firm voice “I don’t like what you are doing” or “Please do NOT talk to me like that.”
  • Teaching your child when and how to ask a trusted adult for help
  • Alerting school officials to problems and working with them on solutions

Make time to listen and talk with your kids. Studies done by the SEARCH Institute reveal that family dinner time talks help children build assets and skills such as feelings of safety and security, positive role modeling, optimism, coping with stress, empowerment, creativity and empathy. Encourage kids to get involved in school or out of school activities. Participation in healthful programs and hobbies can boost confidence, help kids make friends, and protect them from bullying behavior.

Social and emotional learning can be difficult for kids and requires family support at every step. In some situations kids can develop fears that they will be forced to fight, that the bullying will get worse if they talk about it or that parents or teachers won’t believe them. Reassure kids that they are not alone and praise them for being brave enough to talk about difficult situations. Stay in touch with their teachers and seek out professional help if needed. Parents play a vital role in the prevention of childhood bullying. Let’s do our part in helping children succeed.

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Enrique Mata

Enrique joined the Health Foundation in 2001. He leads the Mental and Emotional Well-Being Priority Area and has more than 15 years experience in health philanthropy including designing, implementing, and evaluating Collective Impact initiatives. Enrique also maintains skill sets in clinical nursing practice, healthcare revenue cycle management, and commercial property management. He thrives on leveraging resources and building collaboration to make lasting health improvements for the region. A native of El Paso, Enrique holds a Master of Science in public health and a Bachelor of Science in nursing. He also holds certifications from the American Nurses Credentialing Center as an advanced public health nurse and advanced nurse executive.

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